I’d appreciate it if everyone who identifies as “queer” could listen up.
I identify as “queer” a lot of times, and you may identify as “queer” if you like, but it’s very important for us to understand that we are choosing to use that word to describe ourselves. Many people aren’t comfortable being associated with that word and it’s up to us to respect that.
For many years, that word has been used as an insult to people who were/are not heterosexual. Many MOGII people today have been called queer as a slur and are distressed when it’s used to describe them. People have had to listen to that word being shouted at them while they were being beaten, thrown out of buildings, raped, harrassed, and worse. Understandably, a lot of people don’t choose this word to describe themselves because they’ve had bad personal experiences with the word or because they aren’t comfortable associating themselves with a word that has that kind of history.
Therefore, it is extremely important that you not use this word to describe someone else if they don’t use it to describe themselves. Especially don’t use it if you know the word they use to identify. Use the word they choose to describe themselves (particularly if they identify as anything other than gay or lesbian, because erasure is a huge problem in less visible communities. bi erasure is everywhere, and bisexuals definitely don’t need any erasure at the hands of fellow MOGII people).
It’s fine that we’re fine with the word, but a lot of other people aren’t, so make sure you do your best to respect that and stick to describing them the way they describe themselves.
"never apply logic to Doctor Wh-"
nO MOTHERFUCKER I WANT A CERTAIN SOMEONE TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR HIS SHITTY WRITING AND FOR TURNING MY FAVORITE SHOW INTO AN ILLOGICAL MASS FILLED WITH “IMPOSSIBLE GIRLS” AND “BLOCKBUSTER PLOTS”
Just a reminder that while positivity is a great tool it is not healthy to:
- repress negative thoughts/feelings
- feel guilty for having negative thoughts/feelings
- feel that you can’t express negative thoughts/feelings
Negative emotions are a part of life, and a truly balanced cognitive strategy will accept this (while working to change the balance of good to bad and teaching you coping strategies/self care/distraction etc)
my feminist goal is not to convince men that girls are of value, my feminist goal is to achieve a future where the judgement of our value isn’t in the hands of men.
and this goes for, especially goes for, trans girls, girls of colour, disabled girls and LGBTQA+ girls.
girls, all girls, and if you believe otherwise don’t reblog this.
They do have fun together.
The Beatles - Ob-La-Di, Ob-La-Da
The weirdest thing is that people talk about “coming out” as if it’s this big momentous thing that only happens once while in actual fact it’s something that you do almost every single day every time you talk to a new person every time you’re in a new situation you’re constantly weighing your options, the ability to be your true self vs the advantages of being a false self and honestly it’s so fucking exhausting
tbh the only reason anybody is “straight-passing” is because of the common and harmful conception that heterosexuality is the default and that queerness must have extreme and visible markers to be valid